CONFIDENCE OR ARROGANCE

Why is it that when a woman turns a man down the man thinks the woman is arrogant, especially when he has tried all his best to get her? Alternatively, for the women, when a man tries to show off his stuff, we easily pick up offence and call him arrogant. During the week, I encountered this drama with my friends, read and see if you can distinguish the arrogant one from the confident one.
Recently, Brian was promoted as the personal assistant to the manager of his bank, few weeks after his promotion, he got a new boss; an attractive sassy young lady, Becky Adenuga. Before Brian was introduced to her, he had thought that she was a new employee and was planning on how to ask her out. He had shown off the male chauvinism, which had automatically made Becky dislike him unknown to him. He had even boasted to his colleague that he will get her and she cannot resist his charm. Therefore, when she was asked to pick a PA, Brian was confident she would pick him because; he thought he was competent enough to be her PA than any of his colleagues. Moreover, it gives him the opportunity to be close to her despite the fact that it bugs him inside that she was his superior in the office. Unfortunately, she picked a colleague of his. All through that day, Brian fumed because he had been so nice to the lady since she assumed office. He felt that Becky was too arrogant. During board meetings, he was always contradicting any point she made. To make it worse, Becky orders her around like a servant because of her position in the office. At a point Brian went as far as checking out her curriculum vitae, disappointed that she had the right qualifications, he was still determined to get back at her. He knew he chose his colleague to torment him because he had made his interest in her obvious and she had turned him down. “I mean I am the ladies man.” He cried out to me.
One day, during the board meeting, Brian constantly challenged her to a point that Becky cried out: “this is why I did not pick you as my PA; you are just too full of yourself.” and she left the meeting angrily. “Everyone stared down at me so hard that I wished the ground should open and swallow me up.”
Later that day, he went to apologize to his boss (he said that sarcastically). She accepted but made it clear to him that she never wants to cross his path. Brian felt defeated and decided to lay low. “Like all my guys will do, I ignored her. We only exchanged formal greetings, which were all.”
Things went back to normal until a new female employee was employed and luckily, for Brian, Mrs. Coker was fond of him and was Becky superior. “What a nice way to show the lady that I’m still the man.”
Because of the fondness or favour as he calls it, Becky was no longer his boss; rather he was a boss of his own. This got Becky mad because she detests him. As fate would have it, after the end of a hard day at work, Brian was driving to the mainland from the island when he saw Becky stranded on the third mainland bridge, he quickly came to her rescue, despite the misgivings they have for each other.
“At first she declined my help because she was still trying to be a tough lady. When it dawned on her that I was her shining knight, she had no choice.” Do you know that the few minutes they shared during that ride changed their lives?
“I don’t even know how it started. The next thing I know, I’m picking up his calls, having lunch dates with him, and so breathless whenever I see him.” said Becky
“I remember she said she never liked me because I was too egocentric. Really? I asked her and she told me I made it too obvious to her that I was the ladies man and I told her she was a hard nut to crack and made me feel like a loser.” Said Brian happily. Therefore, I asked, “How was the first kiss?” and they left me.
This is typical in couples, if a woman sees a man that he likes, she quickly get a turn off when he display his male chauvinism, a man on the other hand hates it when the lady proves too hard to get. Why do they get frustrated? Why do the guys show off their ego as a way of attracting a lady? Is it just to send a message of confidence or is it insecurity? Do ladies turn guys off because they feel the guy is not too hot for them? Watch out for the concluding part of this article.